I Have Learned Things that could Blow Your Mind

Well, not exactly blow your mind, but surely blow you away.

This week has been rather hectic, but this amazing poem brings it all together. I believe it was borne out of the experiences of the author Omer B. Washington. It simple and profound.

The poem is titled I've Learned.


I’ve learned-
that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned-
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I’ve learned-
that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned-
that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.

I’ve learned-
that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.

I’ve learned-
that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.

I’ve learned-
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I’ve learned-
that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I’ve learned-
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learned-
that you can keep going long after you can’t.

I’ve learned-
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I’ve learned-
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I’ve learned-
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I’ve learned-
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I’ve learned-
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I’ve learned-
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I’ve learned-
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned-
that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned-
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned-
that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned-
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned-
that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I’ve learned-
that your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren’t biological.

I’ve learned-
that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned-
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I’ve learned-
that a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.

I’ve learned-
that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned-
that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I’ve learned-
that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I’ve learned-
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I’ve learned-
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I’ve learned-
that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I’ve learned-
that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned-
that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.

I’ve learned-
that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

I've learned....


Uchendu is a Speaker, Entrepreneur and Writer, who loves teaching young people. You can follow him on Twitter or Facebook or circle him on Google+.

INVICTUS: The Wallpaper

I like graphics. I remember when I was about 13 years old, I would tinker with Corel Draw just trying to make something look unbelievably nice. Later on, I began designing other stuff. One of my favourite hobbies is using motivational quotes to create very simple wallpapers for my computer.

I'd like to show you one of them. The It's titled Invictus, by William Ernest Henley. This is an amazing poem about confidence and courage to go through the hard times we all go through.

Now this is an experiment. Check out the picture and tell me what you think in the comment section. Just right click on the picture below and select "Save Target As" or "Save Link As". Try it out as a wallpaper.

Uchendu is a Speaker, Entrepreneur and Writer, who loves teaching young people. You can follow him on Twitter or Facebook or circle him on Google+.

Why All Copycats Should Be Beaten

Happy New Year!

Its been so LONG since my last post. I've been putting some additions to the blog, and being a perfectionist it took a while. And yet, it isn't finished. I thought, what the heck? Let's do it anyway. So, without further ado, I'd like you all to read something special. This is one of my first write-ups ever. Its totally unedited in its content, but the title is different. It was initially written 31 July, 2009. Here it is.

A lot of things could cause an unhappy family. But I personally believe that for our generation the scenario you are about to picture will be one of the main reasons.

I have a roommate. For the purpose of this story, lets call him John. John is an excellent student he is the third best in his department (petroleum engineering). Both the best and the second best come to him a lot for academic help. Many times, they copy his assignments and do their best to study with him. The same thing goes for the rest of his course mates  John on an occasion in which i was present read from about 8pm one night till 4am the next morning, nonstop.

Ever since John was in year one, a particular group of people in his department copy his work in tests, practical reports, exams, quizzes etc. Therefore, their GPs are not below 4.0 . John as a good friend tells them regularly to read those things they copy from him, but we all know the C-P-F principle (i.e Cram>Pour>Forget). Which means they do not read those things or if they do, they read very little. They therefore do not know much.

Now when these 'copycats' (please pardon my language) eventually get jobs in big oil companies with their 'glossy' credentials, a lot is expected of them. But they eventually perform far below expectations. This is where the problems begin. But by now the young 'copycat' man is happily married with children and wants to do his best to provide for his family, love and care for them, be close to his children, and the list goes on and on. Perfectly good intentions, i must say.

But his under performance cannot stay unnoticed for too long. Eventually, his supervisor notices and calls his attention and makes him understand that he must perform, else he would be relieved of his duties.

The 'copycat' by now is sacred stiff and begins to make frantic efforts to contact John, his friend, to save him. But by now, John is a very busy man. John then advises the 'copycat' to go back to the university to find the text books to get the necessary knowledge. The desperate 'copycat' eventually does this and gets the books. He then begins studying them with such enormous concentration that his family becomes secondary.

Because he is angry at himself for not studying in school he beats his children unnecessarily when they play. He wants them to study always and they therefore develop a fear for him and cannot confide in him anymore. His wife loves him truly, but cannot understand why her husband shouts at her a lot and rarely eats. He does not give her attention and also ignores her in bed and this drives her nuts.

But this is the same man who was once loving, considerate and caring. This is the man who was once very close to his children. This man never wanted this to happen, but it was a direct consequence of his 'copycatism'.

His children now seek external sources of happiness because both mom and dad are always irritable. They begin to learn evil things from peers. They become 'champions' outside, but 'angels' at home. Daddy and mummy must not know.

His wife too is not left out. If the woman cannot endure, an occasional 'away match' is the way out.

Before the 'copycat' realises what he has caused, his family becomes a byword on the streets. And all this because of one thing...he was a 'copycat'.

Let us understand that the future is governed by day to day decisions in the present and good decisions make for a good future. You cannot eat your cake and have it. Take care of your today, so that your tomorrow will be better.

Now that you know this, what are you going to do with it?

Uchendu is a Speaker, Entrepreneur and Writer, who loves teaching young people. You can follow him on Twitter or Facebook.

Tell me how this inspired you. I wish you GREATNESS.